The Gottman Method

The Gottman Method was developed by John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz-Gottman in the 1980s with the aim to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, affection, and remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations. The purpose of these goals are to assist couples in achieving a deeper sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their own relationship that ultimately leads to heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth.

An initial session includes the assessment which informs the therapeutic framework and intervention to be addressed in the following sessions. The assessment is a joint session followed by individual interviews with each partner. Couples complete questionnaires and then receive feedback on their relationship. Next, the couple and therapist decide on the frequency and duration of the sessions. With the therapeutic framework now created the couple and therapist move forward toward the therapeutic intervention. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals.